destroy the notion that someone’s mental health is what makes them evil.
destroy the notion that mental illnesses make bad people.
destroy the notion that you can’t be an outright awful person without being mentally ill.
destroy the notion that neurotypical people can do no harm.
Traditional FA [Fat Acceptance] arguments have relied on the idea that the way to diffuse these hateful statements is to prove that fat isn’t necessarily unhealthy. But by doing so we’ve ceded the premise that health status is, in fact, grounds for hating or despising someone. And as long as the tiniest statistical correlation between fatness and whatever-disease exists, we’ve lost the argument, because we diffused the wrong bomb: we should have rejected the idea that it’s okay to hate people for being ‘unhealthy,’ period.
I will always preach that it is unnecessary for you to be healthy to deserve respect.
Isn’t it also ableist to indicate that somebody’s worth can be measured by their health status? Seems like it sets a very terrifying precedent - that everything is okay as long as you’re “healthy” (which is a very subjective concept, anyway). So yeah anyway, please don’t espouse the “I’m fat but it’s okay because I’m healthy” trope, because it’s a disservice to other unhealthy fat individuals (that their acceptance should be predicated upon their health status) and an overall disservice to disabled individuals.
anything a non binary person does is not binary. showing of cleavage? non binary boobies. lots of make up? non binary beauty. dresses? non binary fancy. stop implying that people aren’t non binary because they won’t buy into the “androgynous masculine” bullshit. a non binary person who doesn’t hide their boobs isn’t mocking you. get over yourself.
Same goes for other body types and ASABs too. Beard and/or mustache? Nonbinary facial hair. Tons of body hair showing? Nonbinary fuzz. Showing off a very flat or concave chest? Nonbinary chest. Rockin’ a baggy t-shirt and cargo shorts? Nonbinary casual.
Nonbinary people don’t need either femmephobia or transmisogyny. Some nonbinary people get policed/erased in the ways detailed by the OP, and others (often AMAB) get their genders policed/erased because they “don’t look femme enough” to be “really nonbinary”.
Also, don’t forget that sometimes people of any gender identity dress a certain way because of sensory and disability reasons. For example, suits and pants may be uncomfortable to wear, so someone sticks to dresses and skirts. Disability intersects non-binary identities too, and I never see disabled non-binary people discussed.
If you want to be friends with me you don’t have to be “Hi, um, can, ya know, we be friends?”
It is 1000000000000000000000% percent ok if you just go into my inbox can go. “Man, I am so fucking pissed off at fucking Larry.” And I’ll most likely respond with, “Oh shit! What did Larry do now?”
I’m jealous of people who are cute and confident enough to just be like “Yeah, I’m gonna post a selfie now” and they do it. They are a force to be reckoned with.